Worn out by power struggles? Overwhelmed by challenging behavior?
Feeling a lack of connection? Has the school called (one too many times)?
I Can Absolutely Help.
I love to help people become the more of the parents they want to be and know their children deserve.
NO REWARDS. NO PUNISHMENTS.
THERE'S A WHOLE OTHER APPROACH THAT'S
MORE EFFECTIVE, MORE RESPECTFUL AND MORE CONNECTIVE.
AND CREATES MORE AUTHENTIC HUMAN BEINGS.
Rewards ("If you do this then you will get..." and punishments (the silent treatment, time outs, grounding, taking away privileges, yelling, hitting etc) may work in the short term but will ALWAYS backfire in the long run. Our culture has become so dependent on this way of dealing with kids behavior that most of us don't even realize there's another way. But there is! And not only is it more effective over time, but it feels so much better to everyone and allows for children's authentic selves to blossom.
This non-coercive approach is rooted in the fundamental truth that children are equal to adults and deserve to be treated with the same respect and compassion. While certainly they are not equal in maturity, they are in dignity and have the same fundamental needs we all do. Challenging behavior is always the result of a child doing their best—based on their development, level of cognition and experience—to meet a fundamental need. I can help you identify that need (or needs) and find better ways of meeting them.
I bring over 15 years of research and experience based in the work of Thomas Gordon's Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T) and Magda Gerber's (R.I.E.) to help raise children who are:
Skilled problem solvers.
Able to advocate for themselves.
IT'S HARD TO GO IT ALONE!
Without a doubt, it's immensely gratifying to know that my book ParentSpeak has had such a positive impact on families. Having read several life-altering books myself, I can relate to their experience. (Mine included Magda Gerber'sYour Self-Confident Baby, Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting and Thomas Gordon's Parent Effectiveness Training — all of which I highly recommend.) However, I found that implementing their sage advice was easier said than done. I needed more support.
For me, working with a parent coach made all of the difference because 1) I had an actual person to talk about my specific challenges; 2) I got feedback in real time and 3) she was able to identify patterns I just couldn't see.
It turned out to be the most impactful gift I've ever given myself and my family.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT WORKING WITH ME:
I know that it can sometimes feel like a both a blessing and a curse to have
to break generational cycles, heal old wounds and learn new skills in order
to become the parents we want to be, but it needn't be so daunting.
Change comes in making small changes in every day life interactions
that cumulatively have an enormous impact.
Here's what you can expect when working with me:
A chance to vent without being judged!
We'll clearly identify the areas that are most challenging for you and your child.
We'll identify your triggers, how they affect your parenting and uncover their origins.
You'll learn about how attachment styles affects your relationship with your children.
You'll learn how to manage your triggers and use them as an opportunity to learn new skills.
You'll learn specific skills to solve problems with your children without using power over them.
We'll discuss how to talk to others who may not share your parenting approach.
AM I A GOOD FIT FOR YOU? SET UP A FREE CONSULTATION!
To see if we're a good match—both for you to feel comfortable with me and for me get a sense of your challenges so I can be sure I can help—please set up a free 30-minute phone or zoom consultation. (Experience tells me that if you're already on this page, the sooner you reach out the better.)
"Literally everything has changed. It's incredible”
"So many pearls of wisdom that I am now implementing at home. A game changer."
"Jennifer helped me with my very strong-willed child. I understand my children a lot better and I now have the tools I can use to get on their level and help them."
"Jennifer totally changed my perspective. She offered advice I'd never thought about before."
"Everything resonated with me. On that deep level where you have no words, but it's so clear to you that where you've been is not the right place and it's like you knew it all along. We made some course corrections today. Everything wasn't perfect, but what a difference."
"Jennifer's ideas are so simple and make so much sense. Just because we were taught one way, treated in certain ways or punished specific ways does not mean it was best. Thank you Jennifer for changing our lives."