Lehr writes about what vexes her most—relationships, sex, money, communication, parenting, marriage, monogamy and the oppression of children. Tenacious, sharp and funny, Lehr's writing has been described as "subversive" by renowned human behavior scholar Alfie Kohn while psychologist Dr. Laura Markham has lauded Lehr's ability to “make it fun for readers as they have their worldview dismantled and renovated.” 

Currently at work on her fourth book, Lehr is the author of ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with the Way we Talk to Our Children—and What to Say Instead (Workman, 2017); Ill-Equipped for a Life of Sex: A Memoir (HarperCollins, 2004); and 78 Drawings of My Face (self-published 1996).)

Lehr's writing has been published in The Wall Street Journal, Good Housekeeping, Scary Mommy, The Huffington Post and Natural Parent among other publications and her books have been featured in The Los Angeles Times Magazine, The New York Times Magazine and The San Francisco Chronicle among many others as well as on FOX News, CBS News and The Wall Street Journal's Lunchtime Show. She has been a guest on numerous podcasts and radio shows.


As a speaker, Lehr has presented at SXSW, at California State University Northridge, Cal Arts and at numerous preschools and elementary schools across the country. She has recorded for NPR's All Things Considered and is a fellow of the artist colony Yaddo.

Lehr, 53, is the founder and director of Oxford House Projects. She lives in the Los Feliz neighborhood of her native Los Angeles with her family.


Lehr received her BA from Connecticut College in 1991 where created her own major studying the history, theory and practice of dance, art and performance. As a undergraduate, Lehr also studied at the American Dance Festival at Duke University and studied Performance in New York City through a remarkable and short-lived program offered through Trinity College. After college, she moved to New York City, joined the modern dance company Dendy Dance, toured with the company in Europe and the United States and then realized being a dancer was not her calling.


In 1995, she was accepted into UCLA'S MFA Program in New Genres. While talking with her professor, the late conceptualist John Baldessari, about her new project Face Drawings, Baldessari recognized the writer in her and encouraged her to write a book. He gave her permission to do something she never had the confidence to explore.

In 2006, with the advent of the birth of her first child, Lehr spent the next decade studying everything from the history of childhood from hunter gathers to the present, early childhood development, attachment theory, democratic communication, non-violent communication, sociocracy, needs theory, how to care to children with respect, childism, adultism, and other related fields. This included a mix of classes and independent research. Courses include RIE Theory at The Resources for Infant Educarers Center and Thomas Gordon's Parent Effectiveness Training from Meike Lemmens and Non-violent Parenting largely based on the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and Ruth Beaglehole from Echo Parenting and Education.